How To Get A Woman You Want To Break Up With Her Boyfriend & Go Out With You

                

 

It happens a lot - you meet a great new girl, you guys click, but there is one problem...

She has a boyfriend.

You know you should move on. But you can't get her out of your head. Don't worry, if you really want her, there is a way. It's underhanded, potentially unethical, and probably not the best course of action. Yet, I know the answer is wanted, because as a dating coach it comes up time and time again. "Kurt, how do I pick up a woman who already has a boyfriend?"

It's simple. Separate them.

Enough idle chit chat. Let's get down to business. First, you must become part of her life. Not an acquaintance, or some dude she works with. You must enter stealth mode. Find something you have in common, and establish a connection with her, with some underlying flirtation involved. This flirting must be subtle, not direct. Think of this as planting the seed.

Next, slowly begin to bring your conversation with her toward her relationship problems. You must work around the edges, slowly, until she reveals her problems to you. And she will reveal problems, because no relationship is problem free.

Typically these problems revolve around money, sex, work and house work. These are the areas you want to bring up in conversation to see what she reveals. Often, when she brings up a minor problem, it's really the surface of a deeper, touchier issue. For example, a small gripe about housework may actually be rooted in her problem that she feels her boyfriend is controlling the relationship.

What to do now? Blast her boyfriend? Not quite. First, slyly keep bringing these issues to the surface. This will constantly remind her of how unhappy she is. While you're doing this, you must also keep flirting with her indirectly. Otherwise you'll be her friend. Not wanted. Soon, she'll start to openly complain about every bad aspect of her relationship. This is where you can really screw it up if you don't know what you're doing.

If you're too agreeable with her, you'll be thought of as a wussy in her eyes. It'll be obvious you're trying too hard to win her affection. And if you attack him, you'll find she is likely to defend him, and this makes her concentrate on his good qualities.

Here's a better way: give her scenarios justifying her partner's actions while making it clear you don't behave the same way. For example, "While it's not common for guys to do that, maybe he does it because...". Usually, humans want to win arguments. You are setting up an argument with her, and for her to win it, she will have to convince you that her boyfriend is no good for her. This will also convince her, too.

So, let her win. After a good debate, agree that she is right. You've argued for her boyfriend's qualities, and lost. She's right and you're wrong. And because you were arguing for her boyfriend, he is also wrong. Get it?

This works on another level, too. It allows you to stay undercover. No one will suspect you sabotaged the relationship. After all, you were sticking up for him. Diabolical. From talking with her about her relationship, you'll know what she really wants. And you've created a void from what she wants and what she currently has. It's time to fill that void. Slowly, start acting like the man she wants to have. If her boyfriend never gives her anything, casually give her gifts. If she is sexually frustrated, increase your flirting with her.

While this is happening, you also need to start making her jealous of you. For example, jealous of other women in your life. You must date other women, and make sure she knows about it. Even better -- date women you know she doesn't like. This does two things. First, it makes her wonder why you go out with women she dislikes, instead of women like her. That's good. Second, it demonstrates you have attractive qualities, because other woman find you attractive.

What else? If you can manage it, get her friends to help. Only do this if you're sure you won't get caught. This works two ways: have them think highly of you, and lowly of her boyfriend, and that she should date men of your quality, and not his.

This process takes time, is fraught with peril, and is ethically questionable. Actually, it is much easier to forget about that girl and spend your time on women who are single. That's nice in theory. However, in the real world I meet guys every day who know this is true, but still can't get the "magical woman who has a boyfriend" out of their head. If you really want to go down this road, I have given you the map.

Use it at your own risk!

Kurt Dight has created a free 5 day mini course on "how to seduce almost any woman". It is available for instant access for a limited time at http://www.dating-secrets2.com/

Ten Easy, Yet Powerful way to get in the spirit to date again after a break-up or time-out

                

 

Ten Easy, yet Powerful ways to get in the spirit to date again after a break-up or time-out
Divorce and relationship break-up are devastating to most people. Most have learned that jumping from the frying pan into the fire is not a good thing. However, we can get ourselves into a deep rut and have difficulty looking out again for a relationship. Here are some ways to get the energy moving to see over the top of the valley!

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1. Smile at the world. Have fun. Look for positive in everyone you meet. Increase your awareness. Like attracts like. You never know who you meet when you smile.

2. Look at your surroundings . Are there negative “leftovers" from former relationship/s? Remove what no longer is positive for you. Surround yourself with things that bring you joy. You may want to consider the feng shui of your environment.

3.Make changes to what you hear . What music puts you in a romantic mood? Spend some time each day listening to your special music. Avoid listening to news that is negative or anything that puts you in a negative mindset.

4.Consider your sniffer! : Is it time to consider new cologne, aromatherapy? Again, explore what smells great to you. Burn some scented candles, place some scented oil at your desk, by your bed.

5.Look in the mirror! Wear clothing that makes you feel good about yourself. Time for a new hair style or other changes?

6.Those taste buds! Eat food that is light and gives you uplifting energy and that you enjoy.

7.Read singles ads in newspaper or internet: Start to consider the qualities that you would love to have in another person in your life.

8. Do the inner work. Clear the closets of your mind/emotions/ and spirit of negative ideas about dating and relationships. This is a big one and may take time and energy if you have not attended to this earlier on.

9.Consider how your spend your time: . Know that if finding a relationship is valuable to you, consider what time will you create for this new adventure.

10. When you are ready, Affirm to the Universe your worthiness and intention to date again.
We have all heard the clich, you get what you ask for. We know that clarity about what we want
Increases exponentially the chances of receiving it.

Jennifer Wright is an Occupational Therapist and Personal Singles Coach. Internationally, she has co-created with singles iver 40 to find the love of their lives. Find out more at www.wrightdirection.com.